It’s easy for the pain of women to be fetishized, she argued, but what’s less easy is to fetishize our anger.

It’s also true that expressing anger is, for a woman, to risk attracting actual material violence. Many of us assume well-practiced expressions of impassivity when being harassed, because shouting back, or even rolling our eyes, invites the possibility of physical escalation. It’s difficult to feel safe expressing anger, but it’s also unpleasant –... See more