the friendship theory of everything
A big project of mine over the next year will be writing about cultural scripts and expectations in friendship. Friendship is vastly undertheorized as compared to romantic relationships, but they’re just as important: they affect our quality of life in the most fundamental ways. Friendship is an entry point to everything: work, romance, sense of se... See more
friends shape your identity
We’re friends with people who see the world the way we see it, who share our views and our belief set. No matter how good a match someone looks on paper, that doesn’t guarantee a friendship.
Simon Sinek • Start with Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action
Some social scientists and even philosophers suggest a different vision of friendship, in which friendship is conceived not as a ledger of emotional debits and credits but as an organic creation — an artwork — built by the friends themselves. Conceived in this way, friendships are not ranked or stratified along a bright line from BFF to near strang... See more
Lisa Miller • The Vexing Problem of the ‘Medium Friend’
consists almost entirely of individuals pursuing their own interests, refining those interests, and letting those interests lead to more interests through connections with others
Charles Broskoski • Here for the Wrong Reasons — Are.na
As Joshua Fields Millburn of the Minimalists once quipped, “You can’t change the people around you, but you can change the people around you.”53 You get to choose who you spend your precious time with. Surround yourself with people who want the best for you. That doesn’t mean they’ll always agree with you or be indiscriminately supportive. No, find
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