The Courage to Be Happy: Discover the Power of Positive Psychology and Choose Happiness Every Day

But if you’re saying I should think seriously about my own “from now on,” then first I would need to know about “until now,” as its precondition. PHILOSOPHER: No. Right now, you are in front of me. It is enough to know “you who are in front of me,” and in principle there is no way for me to know “the past you.” I repeat, the past does not exist. Th

In Adler’s time, however, there was no psychologist more concerned with education. To Adler, education was not simply a core task—it was also the greatest hope.

Counseling and childhood education are essentially the same.

Adler liked to use the following expression. What we need is “seeing with the eyes of another, listening with the ears of another, and feeling with the heart of another.”

Why can’t you take off the mask when you are with a normal friend? YOUTH: Because if I did such a thing, the relationship would fall apart! You can talk all you want about “the courage to be disliked” and such, but there’s no such thing as a person who would actually wish to be disliked. We wear the mask to prevent needless conflict from arising, a

There is no end to approval.

Work relationships are relationships of “trust,” and friend relationships are relationships of “confidence.”

That is probably because we don’t have enough “courage to be normal.” It’s okay to be just as we are. Your place to be is there, without needing to be a special being or be outstanding in any way. Let’s accept our ordinary selves, ourselves as “everyone else.”

One must not just observe from a distance. One must dive in oneself.