You can lead them to water, but you can’t make them drink. No matter how gifted you are as an educator, there is no guarantee that they will change. But it is precisely because there is no such guarantee that one has unconditional respect. First you have to start. Without setting any conditions whatsoever, and regardless of what the anticipated

Counseling and childhood education are essentially the same.

If someone comes into contact with Adler’s ideas, and is immediately moved very deeply and says, “Life is easier now,” that person is grossly misunderstanding Adler. Because when one truly understands what Adler is demanding of us, one is likely to be shocked by its severity.

Ha-ha, what a laugh! So now it all boils down to love? You’re saying that if I want to know the real Adler, I have to know about love?

By practicing it yourself, you will show them what it means to have respect. Teach them how to build the kind of respect that is the cornerstone of all interpersonal relationships, and show them what a respect-based relationship can be. As Adler tells us, “Cowardice is contagious. And courage is contagious too.” Naturally, respect also becomes

Why can’t you take off the mask when you are with a normal friend? YOUTH: Because if I did such a thing, the relationship would fall apart! You can talk all you want about “the courage to be disliked” and such, but there’s no such thing as a person who would actually wish to be disliked. We wear the mask to prevent needless conflict from arising,

what is the intended objective of education, both at home and at school? What is your view on this? YOUTH: It’s not something I can convey in just a few words. The cultivation of knowledge through scholarship, the attainment of social skills, the development of human beings who respect justice, and who are sound in mind and body …

“You are not living to satisfy other people’s expectations.” And further, “Other people are not living to satisfy your expectations.” Don’t be afraid of who might be watching; don’t pay attention to other people’s judgment; and don’t seek recognition from others. Just choose the path that is best for you, and that you believe in.

But if you’re saying I should think seriously about my own “from now on,” then first I would need to know about “until now,” as its precondition. PHILOSOPHER: No. Right now, you are in front of me. It is enough to know “you who are in front of me,” and in principle there is no way for me to know “the past you.” I repeat, the past does not exist.