The Conversation: How Men and Women Can Build Loving, Trusting Relationships

Something else that used to really hold me in a place of fear was that I thought that if people knew how you felt about them, then they had the power to hurt you, and so I didn’t let my girlfriends know how much I cared about them. I realize that people are scared of vulnerability, but here’s what’s also true: If people know how you feel about them

Withdrawal can occur when a man is overwhelmed by money, work, stress, or other things that he is trying to work out before communicating with you.

But even though you knew where you were going, you heard about the weather, and you came prepared, you still get caught off guard when you step off that plane.“Oh, Lord. I knew it was going to be hot; I didn’t know it was going to be this hot.”You like it hot, but somehow the idea of being in that heat for an extended period of time feels suffocati

We all say we want it, but we become uncomfortable when it means that we have to grow, to bare our souls. But the reward is immediate and it’s incredible. There is nothing that can compare to the power and the beauty of love, of allowing ourselves to love and be loved. There is a divinity to it. I do believe that God and the universe have a wonderf

always sensitive to what their wives wanted or needed

As I’m sure you already know, Hill, where emotions rule, logic is often lacking.You may think you’re untainted by the old hang-ups that have plagued Black relationships for generations, but I doubt it. One day, you may find yourself in a sour mood as your lady walks into the bathroom and innocently reminds you to put the cap back on the toothpaste,

So here’s the thing: I have a good clue as to what women ultimately want. I’ve seen what it takes to be that kind of man. But somehow I forget it all whenever I meet a woman I am interested in and who might return my affections. I draw a complete blank, find myself trying to figure out what in the world she might want from me, and then worry that I

friends—both men and women—fundamentally want the same thing. They want to be happy, healthy, successful, and loved.

I even started to wonder whether men and women considered each other friends, or if we automatically compartmentalized our relationships: We’re either lovers or we’re platonic friends, but not both. Truth be told, the comments I heard made me wonder—despite all the emphatic “I love men” and “I love women” declarations—whether men and women really e