The first step along this journey of inner growth is about self-observation as the path to dis-identifying from your personality

Nines “merge” with others, but what does this mean? Merging happens when Nines “take in” the positions, feelings, and desires of another person to the point that they feel like they’re their own. They lose the boundaries between themselves and other people. This is especially easy for Nines because they usually don’t know what they want and can hav

Forgetting yourself to more easily go along with the wishes and wills of others Observe what happens when you or someone else asks you what you want. If you don’t know, note what it’s like not to know and how you feel when you look for a preference and can’t find one. Tune in to what’s going on when you do have a priority and you distract yourself

They dislike feeling controlled, but like structure and clear lines of authority.

This can include avoiding realities like needing to get a job or change careers or leave a relationship—anything that might inspire the need to act or the need for change, as Nines can get stuck in the inertia of wanting to maintain the status quo.

Nines can actually find it more relaxing and grounding to be by themselves,

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Nines orient themselves in relation to other people, so losing connections can make them feel lost and adrift.

the more we can be aware of how our passion functions and can consciously work toward the embodiment of our higher Virtue, the more we can free ourselves from the unconscious habits and fixated patterns of our type