added by Stuart Evans · updated 2mo ago
The Autonomy of Monogamy
But the issue we have to confront as individuals is not whether humans are “naturally” monogamous or not, but whether we want to be monogamous or not. And in answering that question, we need to weigh all the consequences of our choice.
from Flow: The Psychology of Happiness by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi
The point of marriage is not to create a quick commonality by tearing down all boundaries; on the contrary, a good marriage is one in which each partner appoints the other to be the guardian of his solitude, and thus they show each other the greatest possible trust. A merging of two people is an impossibility, and where it seems to exist, it is a
... See morefrom Letters to a Young Poet by Rainer Maria Rilke
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- “Marriage has a self-expressive emphasis that places a premium on spouses helping each other meet their authenticity and personal-growth needs,” he writes. “The pursuit of self-expression through marriage simultaneously makes achieving marital success harder and the value of doing so greater.”
from The All-or-Nothing Marriage — Eli J. Finkel
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