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The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters
To get the group to be vulnerable, he said, we facilitators needed to share an even more personal story than we expected our clients to. We would set the depth of the group by whatever level we were willing to go to; however much we shared, they would share a little less.
from The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters by Priya Parker
Lyndsey Medford added 4mo ago
When we don’t examine the deeper assumptions behind why we gather, we end up skipping too quickly to replicating old, staid formats of gathering. And we forgo the possibility of creating something memorable, even transformative.
from The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters by Priya Parker
Tara McMullin added 2mo ago
Specificity sharpens the gathering because people can see themselves in it.
from The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters by Priya Parker
Tara McMullin added 2mo ago
When I raise the question of the host’s role to clients or friends, whether in preparation for business meetings or family get-togethers, I am often greeted with hesitancy. This is because to talk about their role is to talk about their power as a host, and to talk about that power is to acknowledge that it exists.
from The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters by Priya Parker
Tara McMullin added 2mo ago
Your gathering begins at the moment your guests first learn of it.
from The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters by Priya Parker
Tara McMullin added 2mo ago
First, that a gathering starts long before guests walk through the door. The clock of the gathering starts, so to speak, from the moment a guest becomes aware of its existence.
from The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters by Priya Parker
Tara McMullin added 2mo ago
As with purpose, it is often through conflict and disgruntlement that underlying assumptions about a gathering’s social contract reveal themselves.
from The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters by Priya Parker
Tara McMullin added 2mo ago
The host can also set the context for the gathering. When I was invited to the sixteenth annual #Agrapalooza, continuing a summer tradition of made-up games and a drunken talent show at some friends’ parents’ house, building on the rituals and memories of all the gatherings before, I was being invited into a world, not just to an event.
from The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters by Priya Parker
Tara McMullin added 2mo ago
And so part of the job of the pregame is to find ways, implicit and explicit, to communicate to your guests what they’re signing up for by saying yes to the invitation.
from The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters by Priya Parker
Tara McMullin added 2mo ago