The Agony of Eros: On Limerence - By Ava

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Limerence is the obsessive, all-consuming feeling certain people get when they fall in love

The most prominent characteristic of limerence, as she explains it, is

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1) intense fixation on whether your feelings are reciprocated and

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People who are anxious tend to experience limerence more often than people who are not; it bears a lot of similarity to anxious-preoccupied attachment

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It's the feeling of being possessed by desire. When you ask people about being limerent it’s not atypical to hear “It almost ruined my life,” sometimes followed by “I miss the intensity of it.”

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2) obsessive preoccupation with the love object

It involves compulsive daydreaming about the limerent object

It's predicted on uncertainty; when you are sure of reciprocation, it naturally disappears over time

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