I know that it can become discouraging when you feel that you’re investing in your marriage and receiving nothing in return. There are two possibilities as to why your wife is not responding. First, and most likely, you’re speaking the wrong love language.

Many times a Dead Sea marries a Babbling Brook. That happens because when they are dating, it is a very attractive match.

Forgiveness is an expression of love. “I love you. I care about you, and I choose to forgive you. Even though my feelings of hurt may linger, I will not allow what has happened to come between us. I hope that we can learn from this experience. You are not a failure because you have failed. You are my spouse, and together we will go on from here.”

“Inside every child is an ‘emotional tank’ waiting to be filled with love. When a child really feels loved, he will develop normally, but when the love tank is empty, the child will misbehave.

We cannot get emotional love by way of demand. My spouse may in fact comply with my demands, but it is not an expression of love. It is an act of fear or guilt or some other emotion, but not love.

Their criticism is an ineffective way of pleading for love. If we understand that, it may help us process their criticism in a more productive manner.

The essential ingredients in a quality activity are: (1) at least one of you wants to do it, (2) the other is willing to do it, (3) both of you know why you are doing it—to express love by being together.

What happened to the “in-love” experience? Alas, it was but an illusion by which we were tricked into signing our names on the dotted line, for better or for worse. No wonder so many have come to curse marriage and the partner whom they once loved. After all, if we were deceived, we have a right to be angry. Did we really have the “real” thing? I

Touch can comfort, reassure, encourage, invite; it can also scar physically and emotionally. Touch withheld can also bring pain.