encouraging words.

When you make a request of your spouse, you are affirming his or her worth and abilities. You are in essence indicating that she has something or can do something that is meaningful and worthwhile to you. When, however, you make demands, you have become not a lover but a tyrant.

With verbal encouragement, we are trying to communicate, “I know. I care. I am with you. How can I help?”

Thus, she did not have a positive role model when it comes to speaking Words of Affirmation. Such

Love makes requests, not demands.

your spouse’s love language is acts of service, then “actions speak louder than words.”

Michelle’s primary love language was what I call “acts of service.” By acts of service, I mean doing things you know your spouse would like you to do.

Thus, a request creates the possibility for an expression of love, whereas a demand suffocates that possibility.

Psychologist William James said that possibly the deepest human need is the need to feel appreciated.