The 2-Hour Cocktail Party: How to Build Big Relationships with Small Gatherings

Start at 7:00 p.m. and end at 9:00 p.m.

Another study showed that nearly half of US adults report feeling lonely and left out. It has reached, they say, “epidemic levels.”3

My favorite advanced icebreaker and the one I recommend you use is: What’s a great piece of media that you’ve consumed recently, and what did you like about it?

If you could teach a class about one topic that you’re passionate about or an expert on, what would it be?

After you get five confirmations from people in your core group, you can begin to cast a wider net of party attendees, like other work colleagues and friends.

For your first party, title it “Cocktails and Icebreakers Party.” This type of title cements the expectation that there’ll be structure to the gathering.

At the party, do these four things: Use name tags with first names only. Facilitate three quick icebreakers. Take a group photo. End the party on time.

What’s one of your favorite secret spots or life hacks for this city?

Sometimes being vulnerable and honest with your core group helps. You can share your desire to be a better host as a more transparent reason why you’re hosting a party.

For your first party, aim for fifteen confirmed guests.