Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well

“What do you see me doing, or failing to do, that is getting in my own way?”

It’s well and good to hope for that special mentor or coach (and cherish the ones you come across). But don’t put off learning until they arrive.

We can be triggered by who is giving us the feedback. What we think about the giver: Are they credible? Do we trust them? Did they deliver our feedback with good judgment and skill? How we feel treated by the giver: Do we feel accepted? Appreciated? Like our autonomy is respected? Relationship triggers create switchtrack conversations, where we hav

“What do you see me doing, or failing to do, that is getting in my own way?”

We can be triggered by who is giving us the feedback. What we think about the giver: Are they credible? Do we trust them? Did they deliver our feedback with good judgment and skill? How we feel treated by the giver: Do we feel accepted? Appreciated? Like our autonomy is respected? Relationship triggers create switchtrack conversations, where we hav

TAKE THREE STEPS BACK Let’s look at systems from three different vantage points—from close in, medium range, and wide angle. Each view enables us to see different patterns and dynamics in our relationship systems. One Step Back: You + Me Intersections. From here we see the interaction of you and me as a pair. What is the particular you + me combina

Identity is the story we tell ourselves about who we are and what the future holds for us, and when critical feedback is incoming, that story is under attack.

“What’s the one thing you see me doing that gets in myown way?”’

there is always a gap between the self we think we present and the way others see us.