Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well

We must learn to speak in “I” language, to share how we have been inspired, touched, puzzled, hurt, frustrated, or angered as a result of what the other person has said or done. Feedback given that way is not an objective evaluation, but a joint inquiry. We offer a peek into our own inner world so as to help the other person better understand the i

So practice giving feedback to people you trust—and let yourself start with something really small and work up from there. Work on owning your power and reminding yourself that you have the strength and the steadiness to handle whatever comes—and that conflict (or feedback) does not automatically lead to separation.

We can approach the world from one of two sides: from a place of fear, judgment, and separation; or from one of love, acceptance, and connection. When we have difficult feedback to give, we enter the discussion uneasily, and this pushes us to the side of fear and judgment, where we believe we know what is wrong with the other person and how we can