
Taking the Leap: Freeing Ourselves from Old Habits and Fears

Acknowledge you’re hooked (with humor, if possible). Pause, take three conscious breaths, and lean in to the energy (with kindness, if possible). Relax and move on.
Pema Chodron • Taking the Leap: Freeing Ourselves from Old Habits and Fears
That which can cause our destruction becomes a blessing in disguise when we let the energies arise and pass through us over and over again, without acting out.
Pema Chodron • Taking the Leap: Freeing Ourselves from Old Habits and Fears
The source of our unease is the unfulfillable longing for a lasting certainty and security, for something solid to hold on to. Unconsciously we expect that if we could just get the right job, the right partner, the right something, our lives would run smoothly. When anything unexpected or not to
Pema Chodron • Taking the Leap: Freeing Ourselves from Old Habits and Fears
We are never encouraged to experience the ebb and flow of our moods, of our health, of the weather, of outer events—pleasant and unpleasant—in their fullness. Instead we stay caught in a fearful, narrow holding pattern of avoiding any pain and continually seeking comfort. This is the universal dilemma.
Pema Chodron • Taking the Leap: Freeing Ourselves from Old Habits and Fears
If you are inclined to train in being open-endedly present to whatever arises—to life’s energy, to other people, and to this world—after a while you’ll realize you’re open and present to something that’s not staying the same.
Pema Chodron • Taking the Leap: Freeing Ourselves from Old Habits and Fears
When things fall apart and we can’t get the pieces back together, when we lose something dear to us, when the whole thing is just not working and we don’t know what to do, this is the time when the natural warmth of tenderness, the warmth of empathy and kindness, are just waiting to be uncovered, just waiting to be embraced. This is our chance to c
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You come back because the present is so precious and fleeting, and because without some reference point to come back to, we never notice that we’re distracted—that once again we’re looking for an alternative to being fully present, an alternative to being here with things just exactly as they are rather than the way we would prefer them to be.
Pema Chodron • Taking the Leap: Freeing Ourselves from Old Habits and Fears
Instead of seeing shenpa as an obstacle to be overcome, it is more helpful to consider it an opportunity for transformation, an open doorway to awakening. When I realize I’m triggered, I think of it as a neutral moment, a moment in time, a moment of truth that can go either way. What I’m advocating is that in that precious moment we start to make c
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The shenpa itself is not the problem. The ignorance that doesn’t acknowledge that you’re hooked, that just goes unconscious and allows you to act it out—that’s the problem.