Succulent SexCraft: Your Hands-On Guide to Erotic Play & Practice

How do you deal with your wandering attention? By practicing awareness and paying attention to paying attention. Your attention is trainable. Like a muscle, it gets stronger with use. Most of us haven’t gotten much experience in teaching our attention to stay focused, but we can all become more skilled at attending. As you train yourself to attend,

Here’s an example. Remember sphincter muscles, those round circular muscles that open and close? Well, all your voluntary sphincters at the top (in your mouth, throat and face) and the bottom (in your urinary, genital and anal equipment) are literally connected—they’re neurologically hard-wired together. If you want to open your bottom, allow your

When you learn to do something you haven’t done before, you have to think about the new behavior and consciously make yourself do it. You’re sending nerve impulses along novel pathways. As you practice these actions, new junctions, networks and pathways are formed. After they’re used many times, nerve impulses flow quicker and more connections are

The more deeply entranced you are at each level of the arousal experience, the less likely you are to tumble back to zero and re-enter the world of chattering, thinking, unsexy reality. The wider your stairs—the deeper your trance—the easier it becomes to go in even deeper, get ecstatic and have spectacular orgasms.

• turn off your chattering front-brain and move into your animal arousal

While the endocrine system, like the nervous system, is designed for information signaling, its effects and mechanisms are quite distinct. The endocrine system’s effects are slow and long-lasting while the nervous system signals are rapid and short-lived.

Anxiety is just excitement without enough breath. This isn’t just a pleasing aphorism—it’s also true physiologically. The biochemical state of anxiety is literally the same as excitement, only with less oxygen. Which gives us a straightforward antidote to anxiety. When you’re feeling tense, simply deepen and slow your breathing. Use your whole ches

You can breeze up the steps in your rush to get to the big O, but lingering in arousal has big benefits—the longer you hang out, the more charge you build up, and the bigger your orgasmic waves can be.

While touch (also called tactile perception) is considered one of the five traditional senses, it is actually derived from multiple senses and perceptions, including your ability to sense temperature, pressure and pain. Touch also includes what is called haptic perception—your ability to identify objects by touching them, also known as “seeing with