Stop Walking on Eggshells

people with BPD can be perceptive. So objectively consider what the BP is saying. If, after reflecting, you still disagree, then remind yourself that your version of reality is equally as valid as anyone else’s. Your feelings need to be validated just as much as those of the person with BPD.

Before concluding that BPD is responsible for your loved one’s strong response, ask yourself if your behavior triggered a natural human reaction. Let’s say you cope with BPD behavior by spending as much time as possible away from home. You work late, and when you come home, you barely speak to the person with BPD. You may be trying to protect yours

For example, many non-BPs said that when their relationships with the BPs were over, the BPs implied that they would kill themselves if the non-BPs did not return. Non-BPs on the receiving end of these threats feel extremely guilty, confused, and worried.

codependence The non-BP often performs valiant and heroic acts of kindness, no matter what the price to themselves. In an effort to help the person they love, they: swallow their anger ignore their own needs accept behavior that most people would find intolerable forgive the same transgressions again and again This is a common trap for non-BPs—espe

People with BPD may be inconsistent, thus causing seemingly no-win situations, because they have an inconsistent sense of self.

“I was concentrating on not abandoning her, no matter what she did. One day, I realized that, instead, I had abandoned myself.”

I think that borderlines are concerned with only one thing: losing love.

Frequently, the person with BPD traits accused the family member of being the one with the disorder.

How does this relationship affect my self-esteem?