I think that borderlines are concerned with only one thing: losing love.

Some people are good and everything about them is perfect. Other people are thoroughly bad and should be blamed and punished for it.

consider how the relationship meets your needs

Before concluding that BPD is responsible for your loved one’s strong response, ask yourself if your behavior triggered a natural human reaction. Let’s say you cope with BPD behavior by spending as much time as possible away from home. You work late, and when you come home, you barely speak to the person with BPD. You may be trying to protect

When the BP is not agitated, you can pursue the issues even further than Cynthia was able to do with Jessie and attempt to clarify and even resolve issues. When engaging in this type of discussion with the BP, it is essential that when it is your turn to listen, you really listen. Here are some tips: Don’t think about what you are going to say. Do

To Jessie (and other BPs), if an explanation feels right, it is right. Facts that don’t fit the BP’s theories may be denied or ignored.

Molly says, “I am caught right now in Sondra’s charming behavior. I am thinking, ‘Ah! This is the person I used to know.’ My logic tells me not to reconnect with her. But my emotions are telling me another thing.”

People with BPD are fully convinced their skewed feelings and beliefs—be they positive or negative—are unquestionably true. Therefore, your mission is to maintain a consistent, balanced view of yourself despite their ups, downs, and sideways.

That’s all I can do. I can’t change the past. I can’t make you believe that I love you. I know it hurts and you’re mad. You can choose to keep thinking these things, or you can choose to try to calm down, accept my apology, and see where we can go from here.”