Spiritual Bypassing

we inevitably will have to deal with our numbness, approaching it with as much care as we can, ceasing to numb ourselves to our numbness. If doing so seems to break our heart, we are on the right path, even if we are on our hands and knees. For when our heart breaks, it doesn’t shatter; it breaks open, expanding to include more and more.

So turn toward your negativity. Stop pathologizing it, stop relegating it to a lower status, stop keeping it in the dark. Go to it, open its doors and windows, take it by the hand. Meet its gaze. Feel its woundedness, feel into it, feel for it, feel it without any buffers. Soon you will start to sense that its gaze is none other than your own, perh

But if we really want the light, we cannot afford to flee the heat. As Victor Frankl said, “What gives light must endure burning.”