Sometimes the Problem Is You
Anytime you have a negative feeling toward anyone, you’re living in an illusion. There’s something seriously wrong with you. You’re not seeing reality. Something inside of you has to change. But what do we generally do when we have a negative feeling? “He is to blame, she is to blame. She’s got to change.” No! The world’s all right. The one who has
... See moreJ. Francis Stroud • Awareness: Conversations with the Masters
Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves. All people live in their own dream, in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the one we live in. When we take something personally, we make the assumption that they know what is in our world, and we try to impose our world on their world.
Don Miguel Ruiz • The Four Agreements
It is very tempting to believe that because you are twenty-something and struggling, the world is conspiring against you. But sometimes, the pain we feel in life is not from people holding us back, but our own inability to deal with their indifference.3 In other words: no one is out to get you. They just don’t care that much. This is both a little ... See more
It is you against yourself
Now, to me, this is a truth so simple a seven-year-old child could understand it. But I’ve met people who are doctors and all sorts of other things, and they never understood it. Never understood it. They just took it for granted that problems exist in the world. Problems exist—by “problem,” I mean something that upsets you, okay? I’ll repeat that.
... See moreAnthony De Mello • Rediscovering Life: Awaken to Reality
The bottom line is, you’ll never be free of problems until you are free from the part within that has so many problems. When a problem is disturbing you, don’t ask, “What should I do about it?” Ask, “What part of me is being disturbed by this?” If you ask, “What should I do about it?” you’ve already fallen into believing that there really is a prob
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