Most people respect another person the moment they stand up from the mud and take that first step into cleaning up their life.

A person is not looking out for a sibling relationship when they let festering resentment build up for two years without saying something.

This is why insecure individuals are routinely exploited by unscrupulous abusers or addicts who latch onto them as an easy resource.

You have no idea what upsets them apart from missing their secret signals. You live in fear of accidentally stepping on a landmine and blowing up the relationship because you have no idea what would make them end the marriage.

Meeting your partner’s needs is how people feel like a good partner. If a person knows exactly what to do, does it consistently, and is praised every time for it, they can feel confident that their partner values them and feels positively toward them.

When both friends have healthy attachment styles the framework develops in an open and explicit way.

Eric realized he was investing in outcomes by making sure other people were always happy with him. This had prevented Eric from standing up to people who mistreated him, but it also prevented him from getting genuinely close with anyone and sharing things about himself they might not like. Eric decided to end his loneliness by opening

By explaining your principles, you also demonstrate what your principles are so the other person can begin to know you and respect you.

The person with healthy attachment does not worry they will be abandoned or forgotten because they know others will think of them even while they are apart and will make decisions with their wellbeing in mind. They do not worry when disagreements arise because they know they are connected at a deeper level. Mistakes aren’t feared because the attach