Slaying Your Fear: A guide for people who grapple with insecurity

Every day, the insecure individual must recharge the draining affection battery on each person in their life to keep the earned love flowing. Any slight mistake could cause a crash in that relationship. Being sad about losing one relationship means less energy to spend fluffing the others, which will lead to a domino cascade of erupting relationshi

Feel that surge of anxiety, that burning urgency? Good. You should feel pressure every single day to provide the best possible outcome for all of your descendants, because as we have established, your impact on the human lives around you is what really matters.

life for failing to meet their hidden needs. Simmering dissatisfaction stews just under the surface of their desperate clawing for approval, and this resentment explodes to the surface in patterns of frequent displays of hurtful anger, followed by a plunge deeper into doormat behavior as they fearfully seek to avoid abandonment for having lashed ou

To acknowledge this internal struggle, I usually say something like, “But asking for your needs sounds like it would be begging, right? ‘Please please please give me what I want’?” The detached client nods at me. “Yeah, that’s how it feels.”

They are obsessed with the idea of maximizing their chance to reach the correct outcome in any scenario. They define ahead of time what that acceptable outcome will be, namely that they are fully accepted and their unlovable secret remains cloaked and hidden from the probing gaze of others.

There is absolutely purpose in every human life. To find this purpose, though, you need to look beyond the modern materialistic focus. Our modern setting obsesses over the self. We are encouraged to focus on what we can own and gather and accumulate, how attractive we can become, how much sex we have.

their own efforts improved due to his valuable insights which he’d held back before for fear of offending someone.

He blames his dad for all the family’s struggles and focuses on taking care of everything his mother needs. She often leans on Eric and cries on his shoulder whenever one of her frequent boyfriends breaks up with her.

You don’t have to be perfect to be worthy of respect. You just need to be taking action toward your goal. The more actions you take, the more respect you earn.