never truly earn real love because they have this secret evil thing inside of them which will make others abandon them if they relax

Sharing needs is not the burden detached people have been led to believe. In fact, as the above exercise shows, sharing needs is an incredible gift to the other party. Sharing disappointments creates an opportunity to build trust and deepen understanding with one another.

When both friends have healthy attachment styles the framework develops in an open and explicit way.

In short, these individuals face two primary issues: They struggle to attach to others in a trusting manner because they believe they are fundamentally unlovable, and they cannot accept themselves because their sense of worth is externalized to what others think of them.

Physical warning signs are usually the easiest method. Anger is often accompanied by clenched fists, quick breathing, a rapid heartbeat, rising voice pitch and increasing volume, rigid muscles, and a defensive mindset of “me versus them.”

By expecting perfection now, an insecure individual will run screaming from every task, craft, or activity which requires any level of practice.

Without improving yourself and growing, you cannot hope to offer better love to others down the line. If you collapse without your needs met, you cannot give love to others.

They rarely become an integral part of the team because that much attention and closeness frightens them. While the rest of the team works hard at bonding and growing together, the insecure individual seems to sit just outside the circle, refusing to enter.

Moments of great joy are instead immensely fearful. Family gatherings and parties with friends feel alienating and exhausting. The slightest ambiguous word from a loved one is interpreted the worst possible way and kicks off a cycle of obsessive worrying which leads the insecure individual to run damage control before the perceived problem is even