You have to decide that you're worth protecting—because if you refuse to trust your own discernment and set your own boundaries, you will set yourself up for unnecessary suffering.

If you can't tell anybody else "no," you'll run out of energy to tell yourself "yes."

Now I understand that silence can be more powerful than speech. Not speaking up can sometimes be a greater act of self-love than any amount of self-expression. When you stop explaining yourself to people who are determined to misunderstand you, you reclaim your energy for the connections that truly matter.

When I began to embrace selective silence—when I learned that I don't need to explain myself to everyone—I found something more powerful than expression. I found discernment in the spaces between words. I found boundaries in the power of pause. I found myself in the sanctuary of silence.

I don't over-explain myself as often now, nor chase after... See more

here's what surprised me: the real power isn't in speaking up—it's in knowing when to stay silent.

As I found my voice, the pendulum swung too far. I developed a "the more, the better" mentality, believing that maximum communication was the antidote to my lifelong feeling of being misunderstood. My anxiety pushed me into over-explaining,... See more

I spent years believing that finding my voice would save me—as if the perfect arrangement of words could heal all wounds and bridge every misunderstanding.