Egypt—romantic love, in the way Westerners refer to it now, as a basis for marriage and a pair-bonded monogamous relationship, is relatively modern.

Over the many and varied years and continents I have worked with human sexuality, I have uncovered tangible elements and values that sexually satisfied people have in common. This insight forms the understanding of sex

Often times, such fantasies are about what that person represents—rather than who they are. Likewise, fantasies about being with a heartthrob type may speak to a longing for perfection or acceptance that feels out of reach in our real-world life. Not all fantasies involve “the Erotic Equation,” but many will involve elements that sit in contrast wi

invite you to reframe your understanding of sex, pleasure, desire, and all we believe it to be. Whether single or partnered, you’ll be lead through a process of sexual discovery that focuses less on “what to think” and “how to be better in bed,” and more on working out how and why sex matters to you. Instead of holding lust as the sole inspiration

Researcher Justin Lehmiller’s studies reveal that it may also work the other way around, insofar as porn can influence our fantasies.

Research into cis women’s sexuality is effectively, and predictably, the opposite. The focus is on problems and disorders of desire and arousal and very little on their authentic pleasures and satisfaction.

fantasies can offer us a portal into what engages us, without the need to pathologize, change, or shame what arouses us.

For many people, desire is synonymous with romantic love. One thing that desire and romantic love have in common is they are both difficult to define, highly controversial, and can be all-consuming.

One of the most common fantasies I have encountered working with women are rape fantasies and fantasies of being overpowered. In 100 percent of such cases I have encountered clinically, none of the women said they wanted for this to happen, ever, in real life.