If I’m not being rejected from anything, then I’m not properly exploring the boundaries of my option space. I want to know the limits of my current capabilities. If I was accepted to everything I applied for, then I clearly wouldn’t have been exploring enough. I would have been staying too much within my comfort zone, and in expectation, missing... See more

Increase your surface area for serendipity... To me, creating serendipity vehicles looks like h aving a low bar for sharing what you’re doing online. For example, if you are confused about an idea, consider writing a blog post about it.

Having a low bar for asking for help is a learnable mindset. Now, whenever I encounter something difficult or aversive, my first thought is, “who would be the best person to have on my side here?” Then I begin to reach out to people who could help.

Figure out what you need, figure out who can help you get it, ask them for it

Things that make this hard in practice:-It’s hard to actually know what you want or need;-It’s hard to be creative about solutions and imagine how another person would help solve it;-It can be intimidating to ask the person;

If you are going to put yourself out there, you are going to get rejected. The solution is not to put yourself out there less, but to learn to get a kick out of rejections. You are making yourself vulnerable to rejection, which can feel crushing and bad.

Nearly all of the best things that have happened to me in the last year have been a result of actively seeking and asking for those things. I have slowly been developing the skill of agency.