
Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself

As if excluding them was even possible.
Kristin Neff • Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself
other hand, are more likely to throw in the towel. Self-compassionate people have also been found to procrastinate less than those lacking self-compassion. This is partly because they report being less worried about how others view their performances, and thus don’t require a plausible excuse for failing.
Kristin Neff • Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself
Being nurturing toward those we care about means sometimes saying no. In the same way, self-compassion involves valuing yourself in a deep way, making choices that lead to well-being in the long term. Self-compassion wants to heal dysfunctions, not perpetuate them.
Kristin Neff • Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself
So when you make mistakes or fall short of your expectations, you can throw away that rawhide whip and instead throw a cozy blanket of compassion around your shoulders. You will be more motivated to learn, grow, and make the much-needed changes in your life, while also having more clarity to see where you are now and where you’d like to go next. Yo
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Hiding our true selves from others then makes us feel even more alone.
Kristin Neff • Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself
It’s not surprising that we often ignore our own pain, given that we’re physiologically programmed to avoid it.
Kristin Neff • Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself
We may also be ashamed to admit our feelings of inadequacy to those we love, for fear that they wouldn’t love us anymore if they knew the way we really were.
Kristin Neff • Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself
“Darling, I know you ate that bag of cookies because you’re feeling really sad right now and you thought it would cheer you up. But you feel even worse and are not feeling good in your body. I want you to be happy, so why don’t you take a long walk so you feel better?” While engaging in this supportive self-talk, try gently stroking your arm, or ho
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Because human beings tend to live in hierarchical social groups, those who are dominant within their group are less likely to be rejected and have more access to valued resources.