To reprogram yourself, you then choose empowering adult beliefs that make sense in the grown-up world. It helps to make a two-columned list, writing down your old and new beliefs across from each other.

Almost without fail, some part of myself could always tell upfront that this thing was going to cost me.

Our many responsibilities can make us feel important: our sense of urgency gives our life a certain meaningfulness as we push ourselves to get everything done.

Their attitude toward their inner experience is full of shame. Not trusting their inner guidance, they are sheepish about their real feelings. But your inner experience is who you are. It’s your job to notice and understand what goes on inside you. To be emotionally healthy, you need to be as available to yourself as you would be with someone you

If you grew up putting others first too much, you may end up living a life of reaction rather than one of fulfillment. Instead, you can learn to become your own champion and protector, valuing and supporting who you are on the inside. The self-awareness you gain will center and ground you in your true self. Finding your authentic self is an

This will work especially well if they can convince you that their better idea will save money, time, and inconvenience. If they keep this up whenever you have a good idea, you will begin to have trouble making up your mind, followed by a mysterious loss of initiative. Over time, you will start to show signs of classic depression: low energy,

One of the most interesting things to me is when one of your previously sought-after goals or activities begins to be dreaded. Your heart is no longer in it, and the thought of continuing to do it leaves you feeling exhausted. Whatever rewards there used to be have lost their appeal and your instinct is to withdraw from the situation. This is

“What do you do with the bad you feel, when you feel so bad you could bite?” When was the last time someone showed you that kind of interest, especially when you were angry and hurt?

Buddhism promoted the idea that our thoughts make up our emotional reality and that the bulk of our suffering comes from clinging to painful beliefs that exhaust and hurt us. According to Buddhism, in order to free ourselves from needless suffering, we must investigate our rigid beliefs and seek compassion for both ourselves and other people.