‘I once read that you shouldn’t reply to anything if you have that stressed-out current running through your body. When you’re typing from a place of being riled up, you will never say what you truly want to say.

Feelings aren’t facts.

Other people and situations can sabotage our day, even when we’re doing everything right: someone might spill their coffee on us; a flight might be cancelled at the last minute; we might receive an unexpected bill that throws our budget off; we might not get the job we wanted because of prejudice, discrimination or bad treatment.

Self-sabotage is one of the most human self-defence mechanisms.

We really do make things complicated for ourselves, don’t we? Self-sabotage can often happen when we feel as if something is ‘too good to be true’, another shape-shifting version of fear. We have to let the fear in, because it is impossible to just get rid of it.

sabotage is like an overprotective parent who keeps their kids inside and suffocates their choices in order to keep them away from danger, when really the best thing to do is to let them get out there, get hurt, and learn how to pick themselves up.

sabotaging behaviour is actually us trying desperately to protect ourselves from getting hurt – it’s a maladaptive way we try to care for ourselves.

Women have been socially trained to always do more, to never feel ‘enough’ and to always keep the people around them happy, even if they lose themselves in the process.

Sometimes self-sabotage can show up in the people we choose to surround ourselves with.