You didn’t ask them to bring you into the world. By making the choice to do so, they took the responsibility upon themselves to raise a healthy child, which is the mandate of all mammals who are contributing to the survival of their species. Your parents and you are not governed by any special rules that require love and affection at all cost to yo

Your parents don’t see or know the real you, as you are today.

That’s why growing up without being seen, known, understood and approved by your parents leaves its mark upon you.

What happens to you as a child, growing up in a household that is either blind to your emotions or intolerant of what you feel? You must adapt to your situation. To ensure that you don’t burden your parents with your feelings or emotional needs, you push your emotions down and away. You become intolerant of your own feelings, and you try hard to ha

“It must be me. I’m flawed,” you decide. You blame yourself

Oscar doesn’t know it, but he harbors decades of resentment and anger because his parents have seldom noticed, validated or responded to any of his feelings or emotional needs.

You know that your parents love you, but you don’t necessarily feel it.

They may quickly change the subject, or dissolve into tears, pulling for you to comfort them.

After you see what you didn’t get, these feelings all may start to make more sense, but they do not go away.