Rising Strong: How the Ability to Reset Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

As Kelly Rae so beautifully demonstrated, boundaries are simply our lists of what’s okay and what’s not okay. In fact, this is the working definition I use for boundaries today. It’s so straightforward and it makes sense for all ages in all situations.

It’s time to rumble. Time to unleash our curiosity. Time to poke, prod, and explore the ins and outs of our story. The first questions we ask in the rumble are sometimes the simplest: 1. What more do I need to learn and understand about the situation? What do I know objectively? What assumptions am I making? 2. What more do I need to learn and unde

I agreed to do something for someone for the wrong reasons. I wasn’t being generous or kind. I said yes to be likable and to avoid being seen as “difficult.” Moving forward, I give myself permission to ask for what I need—to take care of myself. I can never be sure about the intentions of others, but I believe that assuming the best about other peo

“I have to stop kicking the rock. I need to move it. It’s hurting both of us. He’s not the right person for this position, and there’s no amount of pushing or getting on him that’s going to change that. He needs to be reassigned to a position where he can make a contribution.”

Rather than saying I failed and it feels so crappy, we move to I am a failure. We act out and shut down rather than reaching out.

We can’t be brave in the big world without at least one small safe space to work through our fears and falls.

What boundaries need to be in place so that you can stay in your integrity and make generous assumptions about this person’s motivation, intentions, or behaviors?

As Anne Lamott said, “Expectations are resentments waiting to happen.” We have the tendency to visualize an entire scenario or conversation or outcome, and when things don’t go the way we’d imagined, disappointment can become resentment. This often happens when our expectations are based on outcomes we can’t control, like what other people think, w

The core (sometimes the entirety) of my SFD is normally these six sentences with maybe a few notes. The story I’m making up: My emotions: My body: My thinking: My beliefs: My actions: