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Relationships Are Coevolutionary Loops
To find a good relationship, you do not start by saying, “I want a relationship that looks like this”—that would be starting in the wrong end, by defining form. Instead you say, “I’m just going to pay attention to what happens when I hang out with various people and iterate toward something that feels alive”—you start from the context.
Henrik Karlsson • Everything That Turned Out Well in My Life Followed the Same Design Process
Relationships are an important source of personal growth, but for a relationship to expand us, two things are necessary.
The first is intimacy: we need to give the person we are talking to deep attention; we need to really take them in; and they need to feel comfortable enough to share their thoughts in an uncensored... See more
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