you aren’t doing what they expect you to do because the information you’re getting is to get away from them and to heal

we’ll cover some possible explanations of how they became the way they are.

It will be difficult initially to put yourself first, but that’s what self-care is.

Get angry. Every recovery or healing plan has a stage where you need to allow yourself to feel every emotion you feel. Anger is a common one.

Although most narcissists won’t waste their time with a person they can’t control, those who fall in the sadistic mindset are more likely than others not to let go as easily. This group is more likely to stalk, make the victim look like the bad person, or attack the victim’s good nature or reputation just to twist the knife of pain. Remember they

The main lesson to take away from being free of a narcissistic relationship is that there are two people in the relationship, and the only one you have control over is you.

You may be surprised that some of them may have known something wasn’t right but didn’t know how to intervene without making things worse.

If the end goal, or result, of the manipulation is that the other person will have ultimate control, then that person is using manipulation to gaslight you

They give you the silent treatment.