Reboot: Leadership and the Art of Growing Up

The magic, the alchemy, occurs when what we do mixes with who we are and is cooked by the heat of what we believe.

Success and money—and even more important, the busyness needed to create those—became proof of my worth as a human.

considered a problem. Everyone else had already concluded that the aggressive style each of them showed was the reason the company couldn’t make any decisions. “I don’t think either of them is really sick,” the CEO confided in me. “I think they just don’t want to deal with all the touchy-feely stuff you make people talk about.” I nodded and joked a

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Radical self-inquiry is how we learn to become more of ourselves, more like ourselves, more authentic. More human. And better humans are better leaders.

I loved surprising people with what I was capable of doing.

Listening, I’ve come to understand, is bearing witness to lives unfolding, to lives being discovered. Deep listening, listening compassionately, means guiding, gently nudging, or sometimes shoving people down the path of radical self-inquiry so they can make their way to their own truest selves. Then, and only then, can they lead with the dignity a

Early promotion into adulthood is often painful

the higher up the pole the monkey climbs, the more his ass shows.”