Reboot: Leadership and the Art of Growing Up

I loved surprising people with what I was capable of doing.

Between the thing that triggers us and our unconsciously chosen action is a tiny bit of space.

“What would Obama do?” we took to asking each other in moments when his heart flagged. How do you handle yourself on the way out, regardless of whether you were given the respect you deserved?

I’d feel seen not for being good—quiet, compliant, a “good boy”—but for being me—a good person who was also smart and skillful.

we are basically, unalterably good. We are born that way. (And,

“You are not alone.”

the old seen-but-not-seen feelings remain.

Our lives are twenty-four frames per second, with each frame a set piece of feeling, belief, obsession about the past, and anxiety about the future. Neither good nor bad, these frames form us.

the busyness needed to create those—became proof of my worth as a human.