Love is when you let someone be the way she is. When you let up on your judgments of someone, there is a free space in which forgiveness and love occur.

When you don't say and do and get what you want, don't blame your partner.

The second level of telling the truth is to begin to speak forth the emotional truth and the truth of one's judgments to reveal one's constantly active, secret mind. You begin here the practice of admitting how you feel when you feel it, speaking your secret judgments of others out loud, and constantly revealing your own petty and condescending

We human beings are all selfish and unfair and it's worse than useless to pretend we aren't.

As we identify with our newly created self, we lose touch with the being we are and have been since the light came on.

The effectiveness of psychotherapy depends entirely on the client's commitment to telling the truth and this applies to the client's behavior inside and outside the therapy room.

In addition, we fear we may destroy others with our truth-telling.

We must return to being more than the personalities we have shrunk to during the course of growing up.

Sanity is getting back to basic, funky, hometown reality, down from the clouds of good cover stories.