Radical Alignment: How to Have Game-Changing Conversations That Will Transform Your Business and Your Life

Take your attention off yourself and notice how other people are feeling and what they’re experiencing, either verbally, culturally, physically, or emotionally. Compassion for yourself means being able to forgive yourself for mistakes and take care of yourself when things aren’t going well.

Here are some examples from their conversation for you to try with your parent or relative: Intentions: Mom, I want to talk about how our relationship is so tense so we can try to make it better. My intention is for us to feel closer and for it to be easier for us to spend time together. Concerns: I’m concerned that you’re going to feel bad or you’

With trust, individuals can also feel secure and safe from retribution when they share their personal beliefs and opinions. The

The right time: This can be as simple as making sure everyone has time and mental space to have the conversation—and that they are well rested, not exhausted. Choosing the correct time to have a conversation can make the difference between feeling rushed or feeling spacious and between careful and considered or urgent and fraught.

Recency bias, as the name suggests, is the cognitive tendency to most easily remember something that just happened and not quickly call to mind things that happened further in the past. We

A Jeffersonian dinner is a long-running example of a rules-based gathering. These are designed based on dinners Thomas Jefferson used to host. The dinners are limited to fourteen people and are driven by one rule—you are not allowed to talk to the person next to you but must speak to the table as a whole. This creates a specific kind of interaction

Couples and families can even become what psychologists call conflict habituated, a state in which every interaction is approached as a battle for dominance rather than an opportunity for connection and realness.

Esther Perel, a couple’s therapist, once told us that if we stayed together for a long time, we would have more than one relationship with each other, and we’d have to be prepared to allow our relationship to evolve.

Come to conflict as a collaborator. Humans hate losing even more than we love winning. Bring a sense of “winwin” to your team interactions by asking, How can we all feel like winners here?