
Radical Acceptance: Awakening the Love that Heals Fear and Shame

free ourselves from the suffering of trance by learning to recognize what is true in the present moment, and by embracing whatever we see with an open heart. This cultivation of mindfulness and compassion is what I call Radical Acceptance.
Tara Brach • Radical Acceptance: Awakening the Love that Heals Fear and Shame
As soon as we have a gap, we go on-line to check our e-mail, we turn on music, we get a snack, watch television—anything to help us bury the feelings of vulnerability and deficiency lurking in our psyche.
Tara Brach • Radical Acceptance: Awakening the Love that Heals Fear and Shame
Because we live in a free-floating state of anxiety, we don’t even need a problem to set off a stream of disaster scenarios. Living in the future creates the illusion that we are managing our life and steels us against personal failure.
Tara Brach • Radical Acceptance: Awakening the Love that Heals Fear and Shame
Rather than relaxing and enjoying who we are and what we’re doing, we are comparing ourselves with an ideal and trying to make up for the difference.
Tara Brach • Radical Acceptance: Awakening the Love that Heals Fear and Shame
It means feeling sorrow and pain without resisting. It means feeling desire or dislike for someone or something without judging ourselves for the feeling or being driven to act on it.
Tara Brach • Radical Acceptance: Awakening the Love that Heals Fear and Shame
We stand in a beautiful landscape and worry because we have run out of film or start thinking that we really should move to the country. When we are meditating, we experience a delicious stretch of tranquility and peace, and then immediately begin wondering how to keep it going. Our enjoyment is tainted by anxiety about keeping what we have and our
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I realized I didn’t have to lose my life in that same way that she did. Out of love—for my mother, for life—I resolved to hold myself with more acceptance and kindness.” We can each choose the same.
Tara Brach • Radical Acceptance: Awakening the Love that Heals Fear and Shame
When we practice Radical Acceptance, we begin with the fears and wounds of our own life and discover that our heart of compassion widens endlessly. In holding ourselves with compassion, we become free to love this living world.
Tara Brach • Radical Acceptance: Awakening the Love that Heals Fear and Shame
“Don’t turn away. Keep your gaze on the bandaged place. That’s where the light enters you.” When we look directly at the bandaged place without denying or avoiding it, we become tender toward our human vulnerability. Our attention allows the light of wisdom and compassion to enter.