an ability to be happy, calm, and focused, no matter what is going on around us.

Brian Johnson calls this the “equanimity game.” The rules are simple: (1) notice when you’re off-balance, for example, when you start to lose your patience with the traffic, your spouse, or a colleague, then (2) see how fast you can catch yourself and correct yourself—bringing yourself back to equanimity. He says equanimity is one of the greatest

You can be with, watch, and take interest in the thing instead of immediately reacting to it. You also develop compassion for yourself and for others, realizing how hard it can be to maintain a measure of equanimity amidst the torrent of thoughts, feelings, and urges that occur during just fifteen minutes of formal meditation, let alone a