A Sidekick has power over other girls that she wouldn’t have without the Queen Bee.

Can you picture what Carrie means by “occasional breakouts of trouble”? This is a classic popular-girl understatement, which usually refers to one girl completely humiliating another. Why were the girls so reluctant to admit the gossiping and exclusivity out loud? What was silencing the girls from telling the truth? The power of the group silences

keep your sanity and your sense of humor.

This person will do almost anything to be in the group or gain favor from the Queen Bee or the Sidekick. She often observes and imitates their behavior, clothes,

Group dynamics have distinct but unwritten rules.

She can and is willing to bring another person into a group of friends.

Don’t create a situation in which she feels that she has to choose between you and the person described above, because that girl is cooler than you are. Tell her you know she’s in a difficult position, but encourage her to take responsibility, because her torn feelings look like two-faced behavior to other girls. Ask her, “Who’s making the

think of it this way: Everyone, even the girl with the highest social status, has moments in her life of trying to please someone with more power.

so I think you must have a good reason for it.”