If she’s with the Queen Bee too long, she may forget she ever had her own opinion. Her sense of self and identity is entirely formed around her alliance

The Banker can be as powerful as the Queen Bee, but it’s easy to mistake her for the Messenger, the next in line in the hierarchy. The Banker is usually really cute, quiet, and withdrawn in front of adults. This is the girl who sneaks under adult radar all the time

Parenting is really difficult, and the reward is way down the road when she emerges as a cool adult. Allow me to quote my own mother, who said, “When my children were teens, if I liked them for five minutes a day, that was a good day.”

Her peers like her for who she is as a person. She’ll be less likely to sacrifice herself to gain and keep social status.

You were leading the conversation to confirm your own suspicions and force her to agree with you. Girls see through this easily and will shut down. Anyone would. Instead, let go of your agenda and allow your daughter to take the lead.

so I think you must have a good reason for it.”

So how do we get the girls to tell the truth? There’s only one way: anonymity.

under no circumstances should you say something like, “I think you should read this book because…” Instead, say (and this goes for anything you see, read, or hear about relating to your children), “I just read this book, and I want to know if you think the writer is realistic, completely wrong, or out of her mind. Will you read it and tell me what

Being a Champion is more complicated than it looks.