Queen Bees and Wannabes, 3rd Edition: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boys, and the New Realities of Girl World

I tell the girls to take out a piece of paper, sit wherever they want around the room except next to their friends, and anonymously tell me if the girl who spoke is correct. As you watch them find a place to write, the power of the social hierarchy is clear. The girls can’t wait to write, but most want to hide as they scribble away. Especially if t

You’ll often have to rely on secondhand information. You won’t be around when she gets into trouble. Your influence is limited to what you can do before and after. The only people guaranteed to be around her when she does get into trouble are her peers.

Let her define her experience for you. As I said earlier, it’s great if she comes up with her own names

Her position is precarious.

Many parents ask

Like so many girls, I was amazingly good at fooling myself. I convinced myself that I was in a mature relationship and I was in control of the situation.

Don’t be fooled by her approach. She’s doing that only because she’s smart enough to know that placating you will get you off her back faster.

She doesn’t want to exclude people;

But you can be the adult your daughter needs you to be right from the beginning.