Quarterlife

a job that makes adventures, volunteering, and a healthy life possible,

The reality is that the search for stability and meaning has always been part of Quarterlife, not stability alone.

She was incredibly resilient and had learned how to survive and thrive in her own way without tending to healing her trauma. But often the resilience that carries a person through childhood can start to wane in Quarterlife, when our natural defenses start to wear down and all sorts of previously buried symptoms begin to emerge.

had burst when he was still in college and fully able to course-correct.

Quarterlife is a natural period of developing a conscious and loving relationship with one’s body, of feeling forgiveness for its “flaws” and the ways that it has “failed” to perform or protect.

Peter Jacobsen, whose 1880 novel, Niels Lyhne,

social psychologist Kenneth Keniston had written years before, that a person “may feel that they have a right to ‘something better than this,’ without being able to define the ‘something.’ ” I knew there was something better. I just didn’t yet understand what or where it was.

I encourage clients to listen for resistance, fear, longing, excitement, exhaustion, curiosity, and bashfulness when they arise. Before asking what any of it means, I suggest acting as a nature observer, simply attending to one’s own experience in the world.

To separate in Quarterlife is to build awareness of the influences and pressures from other people on one’s own perceptions and choices.