Presence-Based Coaching: Cultivating Self-Generative Leaders Through Mind, Body, and Heart

PRACTICE 8.1. Finding Compassion for Others

Ownership by the client is paramount. Note that the coach put Carly clearly in the driver’s seat. The coach asked her to check in with herself about what felt right. There is no wrong answer. Carly is simply invited to make a choice, right now, that puts the action of talking to Rudy either in motion or to rest. Actions are taken in the future, but

The search for this evidence, especially for behavioral outcomes that provide the core of most developmental coaching programs, is in itself an act of self-observation. The assessment process requires the client to self-observe, furthering self-generation. The resulting conversation often provides opportunities for the client to own the new compete

otherwise would rock the boat. As we change our habits and become a different person, we may need to renegotiate with others. This is a different kind of reorganization; reorganizing ourselves internally is followed by an external kind of reorganization that involves others.

We work with this in coaching so that commitment is more available “out there.” We can connect a future action (like Carly’s conversation with Gary) to both purpose and the felt somatic experience of mobilized energy. And we ask for a firm commitment. This mobilization of commitment is a type of reorganization.

By becoming conscious of how we became who we are, we can wake up to the unfolding story of our own lives and see ourselves in a developmental framework.

Understanding the certainty of possibility provides a way to hold an optimistic stance.

Carly proceeded in the way most of us do: within the world produced by our interpretations and untested assumptions. The coaching conversation placed her directly in the incongruity between her identity (including both her behavior and her interpretations) and the world as it actually is.

ongoing process of transcending our identities, and including them in a new and more expansive way of being in the world. • Self-generation