If you think that you need more time, you will get more time — and more pain. Time and pain are inseparable.

dwell in the state of presence rather than in time.

When you deny emotional pain, everything you do or think as well as your relationships become contaminated with it.

The way of the cross is a complete reversal. It means that the worst thing in your life, your cross, turns into the best thing that ever happened to you, by forcing you into surrender, into “death,” forcing you to become as nothing, to become as God — because God, too, is no-thing.

Then look at the specifics of the situation. Ask yourself, “Is there anything I can do to change the situation, improve it, or remove myself from it?” If so, take appropriate action.

you say yes to what is or accept what isn’t. Then you do what you have to do, whatever the situation requires.

SURRENDER IS THE SIMPLE but profound wisdom of yielding to rather than opposing the flow of life. The only place where you can experience the flow of life is the Now, so to surrender is to accept the present moment unconditionally and without reservation. It is to relinquish inner resistance to what is.

You accept the “isness” of this moment. Then you take action and do all that you can to get out of the situation.

No truly positive action can arise out of an unsurrendered state of consciousness.