After he reads a draft script, “it’s as if you just handed him a baby,” Long said, “and it’s his responsibility to tell you if your baby’s sick.”

Roughly 45 percent of new pairs met through mutual friends, and another 41 percent of new pairs met through mutual friends and shared contexts (like classes). The formation of new ties varied with network distance, meaning that individuals who were separated by two intermediaries (that is, they shared neither friends nor classes) were thirty times

identical twins from opposite ends of the globe.

finite game is played for the purpose of winning,” Carse wrote, “an infinite game for the purpose of continuing the play.”

‘There is me, there is you, and there is us.’ And us is the biggest thing and you have to be reverent to it.”

Doer-type creators are the inverse. Productive, efficient, and dependable, they excel at finishing, have a realistic sense of what’s possible, and can set priorities and make decisions. Yet doers may struggle to be original, to initiate, to see the long view, and to identify a sense of purpose.

John didn’t insult reporters while Paul charmed them. John could insult reporters because Paul charmed them.

From my observation of pairs, I noticed a progression through three key stages: presence, confidence, and trust. Presence is the building block for authentic interaction, but it doesn’t come easy. “You can enjoy someone a great

immensely empowering for the follower. Jillian had the same experience. “At the highest levels,” she told me, “the leader is leading, absolutely, but part of leading is paying immensely close attention to the follower and her responses. And the follower is responding, but the nature of her response can, in an instant, change everything. The