"Feminist masculinity presupposes that it is enough for males to be to have value, that they do not have to 'do,' to 'perform,' to be affirmed and loved."
– bell hooks, The Will to Change
Patriarchal culture continues to control the hearts of men precisely because it socializes males to believe that without their role as patriarchs they will have no reason for being.
bell hooks • The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love
Women have not proven that they care enough about the hearts of men, about their emotional well-being, to challenge patriarchy on behalf of those men with whom they want to know love.
bell hooks • The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love

"To create loving men, we must love males. Loving maleness is different from praising and rewarding males for living up to sexist-defined notions of male identity."
– bell hooks, The Will to Change