Philosopher Martha Nussbaum on Anger, Forgiveness, the Emotional Machinery of Trust, and the Only Fruitful Response to Betrayal in Intimate Relationships
Maria Popovathemarginalian.org
Philosopher Martha Nussbaum on Anger, Forgiveness, the Emotional Machinery of Trust, and the Only Fruitful Response to Betrayal in Intimate Relationships
When we have been betrayed, one of our first reactions is to lash out in blame. We create a story of good and bad and aim our anger at the one who has caused us pain. With deep resentment, we build a case against them, often with enough evidence to prove we should eliminate them from our life altogether. The word resentment means “to feel again.”
... See moreTara Brach • Radical Acceptance
Anger often arises when we feel our “rules” or expectations are being violated. Ask yourself:
- Are these rules mutually agreed upon?
- Are my expectations realistic?
- Am I feeling hurt or afraid?
PhD • How to Control Anger in a Relationship
When you suffer a great loss, you may rightly seek redress. However, justice, which is rooted in love, compassion, and harmony, is not the same thing as revenge, which is rooted in anger, hatred, and ill will. When you are possessed by thoughts of revenge, you have become the very mind state that you deplored in your aggressor. It can lead to
... See more