the real struggle of perfectionism isn’t the impossibility of perfection — it’s the constant feeling of failure.

I’ve long lived as if there’s a silent critic in the corner, watching and grading me. Is my kitchen clean? Do my pants fit? Did I complete everything on my to-do list? Did I journal, meditate, exercise? Did I try hard enough? Did I make ... See more

Perfectionism is, at its core, about trying to earn approval. Most perfectionists grew up being praised for achievement and performance (grades, manners, rule following, people pleasing, appearance, sports). Somewhere along the way, they adopted this dangerous and debilitating belief system: I am what I accomplish and how well I accomplish it. Plea

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