Start by considering the end. Visualise both the road to personal fulfilment and the destination. Consider what behaviour would thwart that fulfilment and do the opposite. Thinking about the route to avoid helps reveal the more rewarding road.

The base level of energy application is where we are reactive.

Our brains are not wired to be good at multitasking non-routine activities. We might feel good when we are busily multitasking, but we are not necessarily productive.

An underappreciated aspect of life is that rewards received are not directly proportional to effort expended.

The Science of Influence

Asking lots of exploratory questions also helps. If you could pick three attributes to describe who you really are, what would they be? If you could pick three qualities to aspire to, what would they be?

Not everyone will like you, and that’s fine.

Everyone meets with adversity, but not in equal measure. Nor do we respond in the same way.

Quiet. Introverts are as sociable as extroverts, they just prefer to be sociable in smaller groups. Being loud and abrasive is not sociable. It is the opposite.