When two people are in an intimate relationship it is important that both have a good sense of their own issues so that they don’t act in a reactive or accusative way when something triggers uncomfortable feelings.

No matter what the external circumstances, your impatience can only exist within you. You develop patience by working on yourself, not by attempting to change others.

However, the only reality in that story is that the sun is shining and children are playing. The rest is the way that we choose to experience the sunshine.

To be present to what is happening within and around us moment to moment is to be fully engaged in life.

grounded there is no need for aggression or annoyance. Sometimes we accuse others of not hearing us when in truth they may have heard us perfectly. They simply don’t agree. Others are entitled to their views just as we are entitled to ours.

A single flash of anger can destroy all the good deeds, the generosity, the kindness we have practiced over thousands of eons.

The wonderful thing about patience, unlike time, is the more we use it, the more we have. Also, by its nature, patience creates a spaciousness that lets us feel as if we have more time than we have ever had.

If you wait for the other person to speak more skillfully you may have a long wait. You can only control you. If the other person responds favorably to your kinder words, that’s great. If not, then you get to practice patience. When viewed from an egoless perspective, it is a win-win situation.

The things that are out of my control are primarily the ones that can most anger me. I know I am not in charge of how someone else thinks or sees me. I am only in charge of what I think and how I see me. Once I bring this to mind patience is restored. —A WISE FRIEND