ordinary everyday behaviour may be an unconscious probe to find out what the other person will do with what I do or don’t do, with what I say or don’t say; and whether they can imagine and articulate the need in it, whether they can see something in it that I can’t. It is as though ordinary life is a performance art in front of, initially, one’s pa

resistance reveals preference and affinity, and fear and suspicion, political sympathy and personal antipathy, and the way these might come or go together. This is resistance as conflicted engagement

Relaxed minds seem to spew meaning on whatever’s in perception.

Something interesting might enter your head if you let it alone.”

Surprising detail is a near universal property of getting up close and personal with reality.