Opening Up: A Guide To Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships

On the surface, it may seem that people in nonmonogamous relationships give up the comfort and security of monogamy. After all, on a regular basis they must confront one of our deepest fears—that a partner is going to leave. But they value their freedom and the freedom of their partners, and with that freedom comes, for some, a greater sense of sec

“We have put a lot of work into our relationship through constant communication, and because of that we are able to open up to others. I love having my foundation. I love that I have found someone who can be my friend, lover, partner, fuck buddy, BDSM partner at any given time and still be polyamorous.”

People who practice nonmonogamy begin from the same premise: one partner cannot meet all their needs and they may want to have sex or a relationship with someone other than their current partner. But instead of hiding it, they bring this fact out in the open.

And make no mistake: relationships take lots of work.

time and energy they dedicate to the relationship, and each partner’s actions reflect these priorities. No one feels taken advantage of.

“Honesty and the ability to communicate kindly.”

The majority of swingers consider themselves emotionally monogamous and sexually nonmonogamous.

The Myth of Monogamy, David P.

We allow each other to have emotional privacy and understand that the other partners touch us in ways we can’t with each other. We’re happy that we each have others in our lives who can do this for and with us.