Notes On Dialogue

How to Ruin a Great Conversation:
1. Replace curiosity with curiositas.
2. Treat therapeutic self-disclosure as the zenith of intellectual intimacy.
3. Assume that talking about great books is the same thing as having a great discussion.
4. Allow your conversations to become sclerotic.
5. Focus on the form of your conversations to the neglect of the co... See more
1. Replace curiosity with curiositas.
2. Treat therapeutic self-disclosure as the zenith of intellectual intimacy.
3. Assume that talking about great books is the same thing as having a great discussion.
4. Allow your conversations to become sclerotic.
5. Focus on the form of your conversations to the neglect of the co... See more
Luke Burgis • Tweet
One way — and I think this is a really lovely way, and I think it’s an interesting question to ask oneself, too. And the question is, when is the last time that you had a great conversation, a conversation which wasn’t just two intersecting monologues, which is what passes for conversation a lot in this culture? But when had you last a great conver... See more
John O'Donohue • John O’Donohue — The Inner Landscape of Beauty
A good conversation is an act of joint exploration. Somebody floats a half-formed idea. Somebody else seizes on the nub of the idea, plays with it, offers her own perspective based on her own memories, and floats it back so the other person can respond. A good conversation sparks you to have thoughts you never had before. A good conversation starts
... See moreDavid Brooks • How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen
