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Not Disappointing Myself
"People can sometimes be held hostage by their expectations. They have a dream of something they would like to achieve or a path they intend to follow, but their mindset falls apart when things don't work out how they had hoped.
The key is to reach for an extremely high bar, but to be adaptable enough to reframe the failures, disappointments, and d... See more
The key is to reach for an extremely high bar, but to be adaptable enough to reframe the failures, disappointments, and d... See more
3-2-1: On the danger of a good idea, how to do your best work, and a question to inspire action
a lot of celebrated qualities are incompatible with each other. Ambition often comes with discontent; focus with rigidity; contentment with complacency. A couple that does everything together probably has fewer close friends. A social butterfly might have a messy house. These are crude examples, but it’s worth remembering that we all have to assess... See more
As a last resort, your core self will simply hijack the controls you use to direct your own behavior. You may be blithely oblivious to your own discontent until the very moment you find yourself weeping at a business luncheon, or punching your son’s first-grade teacher. Fortunately, you can avoid such unpleasant situations if you learn just one “wo
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with. Then, when disappointments come, don’t assume you did the wrong thing. You didn’t. Don’t ask yourself how you could have avoided it, even if you see an obvious answer. Avoiding pain is not the point. Ask yourself who you’re becoming. Because at the end of it all you’ll have thrills, and you’ll have disappointments, no matter which route you t
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