In actuality, none of these narratives bear any close resemblance to the facts. This outrage is manufactured by a “female first” primary social order, with it originating from a toxic version of feminism that is no longer about equality. But rather, female dominance and male submission.

I started wondering, who's offering a compelling alternative ideal of masculinity? I texted my friend Thomas Page McBee, who has written two books about becoming a man. He pointed out (in the least ’splainy way possible!) that I was asking the wrong question. Feminism, he replied, has helped women divest from the idea that there is a monolithic way