"No One Really Prepares You for the Kind of Math When 1+1=3 "
"Parent or childfree" used to be my framework for understanding a dividing difference of adult life. But aging and, yes, friendship, have taught me that there are so many experiences that binary doesn't capture: To want kids but not be able to have them, for physical or financial or logistical reasons. To not want kids but accidentally get pregnant... See more
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from Ann Friedman
Five years ago, I would have looked at someone with two kids under two and thought, “Wow, that looks so insanely stressful, so hard. How do they do that?” And now I have two kids under two, and sure, it is stressful and hard, but it’s also normal now. You get used to it. And just like you rarely go from aspiring entrepreneur to having twenty employ... See more
Nat Eliason • You Can Handle Much More Than You Think
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the cut - june 11 - 2024What If Motherhood Isn’t Transformative at All?
We’re often told that becoming a parent will alter one’s identity. For me, the change never came.
By Anastasia Berg, editor of the Point
Art: March Avery, Evening Reading, 1972/© 2024 Artists Rights Society (ARS), New York; Courtesy of the artist, Private Collection, and BLU
... See moreIt’s a strange thing, being the parent of a teenager. One thing to raise a little boy, another entirely when a person on the brink of adulthood looks to you for wisdom. I feel like I have little to give. I know there are fathers who see the world a certain way, with clarity and confidence, who know just what to say to their sons and daughters. But
... See moreBlake Crouch • Dark Matter: A Novel
She worried that with a new baby the situation wouldn’t get much better. You might be able to divide a man’s love in half, but not in three ways.