this view is unrealistic and stands in the way

You will feel a lot better about leaving at a reasonable hour or taking vacation if you know you’re doing a good job (in fact, high performers take almost twice as much vacation as their colleagues). And the first step to feeling confident is to figure out your boss’s priorities. “Working on the right thing is probably more important than working

And when we depend on our bosses for validation, the smallest bit of critical feedback starts to feel like a rejection of our entire selves.

You obsess about work during dinner, at the gym, and when you’re trying to fall asleep Your mood depends almost completely on how work is going

But what is belonging, exactly? Diversity is having a seat at the table, inclusion is having a voice, and belonging is having that voice be heard.

Milano developed a five-question exercise to help you discover what your anxieties are telling you and learn how to make them productive.

Gratitude has the opposite effect of sadness. If you’re not able to simply regulate your sadness away, list three things you’re grateful for. To really boost your mood, write and personally deliver a gratitude letter to someone you’ve never thanked for his or her kindness. Compared to other happiness interventions, this simple act provides the

relevant emotions (those related to the decision you’re facing); toss irrelevant emotions (those unrelated to the decision you’re facing).

Learning by doing is the best way to discover work you find meaningful. The advice to “follow your passion” assumes you know your passion (and that you can easily make a living pursuing it). Pinpointing what you love to do without working is like trying to choose a spouse based only on their Tinder profile.