
No Hard Feelings: The Secret Power of Embracing Emotions at Work

What’s the anxiety? Where do you feel it in your body? What is the desire being mirrored? What is the desire underneath that anxiety? Once you discover the desire, do you choose to act on it? If so, what are the creative action steps?
Mollie West Duffy • No Hard Feelings: The Secret Power of Embracing Emotions at Work
Learning by doing is the best way to discover work you find meaningful. The advice to “follow your passion” assumes you know your passion (and that you can easily make a living pursuing it). Pinpointing what you love to do without working is like trying to choose a spouse based only on their Tinder profile.
Mollie West Duffy • No Hard Feelings: The Secret Power of Embracing Emotions at Work
“People don’t take emotional culture seriously enough,” advises Wharton professor Sigal Barsade. “They’ll point to other parts of a job that are great on paper.
Mollie West Duffy • No Hard Feelings: The Secret Power of Embracing Emotions at Work
But what is belonging, exactly? Diversity is having a seat at the table, inclusion is having a voice, and belonging is having that voice be heard.
Mollie West Duffy • No Hard Feelings: The Secret Power of Embracing Emotions at Work
Gratitude has the opposite effect of sadness. If you’re not able to simply regulate your sadness away, list three things you’re grateful for. To really boost your mood, write and personally deliver a gratitude letter to someone you’ve never thanked for his or her kindness. Compared to other happiness interventions, this simple act provides the bigg
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Good enough’ is almost always good enough,” advises Barry Schwartz, author of The Paradox of Choice.
Mollie West Duffy • No Hard Feelings: The Secret Power of Embracing Emotions at Work
Try the 10/5 rule that the Ritz-Carlton trains its staff to follow: when employees walk within ten feet of someone, they make eye contact and smile. If they walk within five feet, they say hello. This simple policy, which has also been implemented at hospitals, makes customers and employees happier. (As one hotel encourages its employees, “A smile
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LIZ: If you want to get really crazy about staying motivated, set up a variable reward system for yourself. I created a habit of focusing on a single task (no checking Reddit or email!!) by pressing a random number generator button every time I successfully concentrated for an hour. If the generator (which was set to pop out a number between 0 and
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RNG rewards for work